Alright – I admit – it is a sneaky title. At first glance, one would say, “Of course it’s not Ok to date if you are married!” “I mean, we would call that wrong, deceitful, cheating, unfaithful, adultery” . . . and the list goes on. And you would be absolutely correct!
But that’s not want I am referring to (which was probably your second thought). I’m asking if it is ok to date your spouse after you’re married. The obvious answer is a resounding “yes.” Yet, I can’t help but wonder – if it is so obvious, then why don’t more couples make dating a priority?
Couples who carve out time for one another have healthier relationships. Not rocket science, I know. Before we were married, dating was a priority. We worked diligently to find time for each other. We coveted those precious times of talking and connecting and doing fun things together. But then we got married. We got busy. We had kids. We got tired.
And with that came a complacency that slowly began to erode the foundation of our connectedness. We seemed to be too busy for our spouse. Everything else began to take the front seat – job, kids, hobbies, friends, and so on. With that complacency came the inevitable – a tired, worn out, lifeless marriage.
My tip for this week is a simple one – if you want to get out of the rut of your relationship, if you want to breathe new life into your marriage – make it a priority to begin dating your spouse. You enjoyed it before marriage and you certainly can again. Go ahead – ask him or her out on a date. Take the risk and discover the possibilities.