Lemonade

You are on vacation and are driving with your family.  As you go through a small town, you hear a strange sound coming from the car.  Pulling into an Auto repair shop, you learn that the car needs a new water-pump, which they have to order, and you will need to spend a night in…

What Do You Look For?

“She is such a pig.  I mean, she leaves messes everywhere.”  He continues, “I feel like I work all day and then come home and have to do everything.”  “I can’t believe you are saying that,” she replied.  “Yesterday when I got home I fixed you dinner and cleaned up everything.  So, I don’t know…

Opportunities to Practice

In a study released last year by the American Sociological Association, it was discovered that Americans with siblings are more likely to stay married than those who were only children.  The Ohio State University researchers found that each sibling a person has, up to seven, decreases their risk of divorce by 2%. Now at first…

Want to Suffer?

As you read that title, you are probably thinking, “Of course not.”  And that echoes the sentiments of most of us.  We hate suffering.  We want comfort.  We want to lay in a hammock, drink wine, nap, get a massage – anything that pampers ourselves.  But suffer – no thanks; I am happy to skip…

Responding to Crisis

On July 6, 2013, Asiana Airlines Flight 214 from South Korea crashed short of the runway at San Francisco Airport.  The plane struck the ground with the tail hitting a seawall.  Three flight attendants were ejected.  One of the remaining flight attendants, Lee Yoon-Hye, helped hundreds of passengers get safely out of the plane and…

Radical Acceptance

I recently heard a client make the statement, “My husband doesn’t accept me.”  When I asked for her to give me more information, she went into a lengthy list: “I go to bed too early, I don’t vacuum correctly, I take too long getting ready in the morning, I don’t set the table the right…

Is Your Partner Good Enough?

While this may seem like a strange question, it is one that was raised recently by author Robert Frank.  He discusses a conversation between two women in which one verbalized her frustration and wondered aloud why she kept chasing after guys that had no interest in her.  At this same time other guys in whom…