You may be thinking, “I certainly hope I don’t have Pssta . . . Pasta . . . whatever that word is. It sounds awful.” Pistanthrophobia is the fear of trusting others. For most people it comes about because they have been hurt by those in whom they have trusted. Childhood wounds are some of…
As we have looked at commitment in our last two times, we have examined the importance of following through on the things that we say we will do and remembering the big picture during times of conflict. Today I want to look at how we treat our mate when he or she is not present.…
People perceive us in a variety of ways. We may have a stellar reputation for quality work. Perhaps people think of you and they see someone who is always running late. Or maybe when you come to mind, other people’s thoughts go to – lazy, dependable, giving, selfish, caring, handicapped, lonely, grieving, and so on.…
Last time we began to explore commitment and what that might look like. In defining commitment we saw that it is both a dedication to someone but it also restricts our freedom. While restricting our freedom may at first seem like a negative, it really isn’t. I used the example of marrying my wife. When…
I recently read about a woman from New Mexico. One of her parents was a teacher and the other was a nurse. On nights and weekends they would do volunteer work. They were both committed to a life of service. The woman herself became a physician and works with the homeless community and has for…
So, I wonder – how would you define commitment? If you ask five different people their definition of commitment, you are likely to get five different answers. For example, when I examined one source, it gave two somewhat opposite definitions. On one hand it stated that it is a state of being dedicated. Well, that…
I know, you are probably thinking, “Who in the world is Phil and why would I care what he does?” Great question. Phil Allman Jr. is a tennis player in Colorado Springs. But he is not just any tennis player – he is a 99 year old tennis player, who plays at least twice a…
Your first thoughts may be, “Of course I’m not good enough. Most people are way more accomplished than I am.” And with that begins a journey of feeling inadequate, less than, and perhaps even a bit of a failure. Last time I wrote about the dangers of comparing ourselves to others on social media. This…
You may be thinking, “Well, that would be nice but I doubt that I can just think my way into living longer.” However, it is reported that over 400 scientific studies have demonstrated the immense power of our beliefs. Judith Graham, from Kaiser Health writes, “When aging is seen as a negative experience, (characterized by…
The answer may be – Yes. A study from 2021 found that for a vast number of individuals using Instagram, felt worse about themselves, which contributed to increased depression and anxiety. This was in part from people constantly comparing and evaluating themselves in relationship to others. The study found (this won’t sound too profound), that…