How Can I Minimize the Effects of Divorce on My Children?
As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I strongly believe that marriages can be saved much more frequently than they are – if the two people involved will honestly do the work that is needed. However, I recognize that in a society that is all too toxic and does little to encourage marital longevity, divorce is…
Have You Given Up on Your Dreams – Part 1
When we were 20 years old, most all of us had big hopes and dreams for our future. They probably included relationships, careers, travel, etc. Yet the sad thing is that I regularly see clients in my office at 50 or 60, who have become jaded and cynical at the very notion of dreams they…
Are You Ready to Take the Challenge?
“Well, that depends – what’s the challenge?” Oh, no need to worry. It’s not eating something disgusting like eating a dish of bugs or scaling the face of Half-Dome in Yosemite. This should actually be pretty doable. “Ok. Well what is it?” you may ask. It is being kind to your spouse. While some may…
Is Work Taking a Toll on You?
Most would respond to this question with a resounding “YES!” But even as we say that, we are probably unaware of just how much we really do work. You may think that you work 40 hours, and the rest of the hours are yours. However, that is highly unlikely. You see most of us give…
Are You Safe?
I just finished a session with a couple today where this question loomed large. This husband and wife have been married for 15 years and have a couple of kids. While they both have talked about reconciliation, the reality is that he wants to save the marriage and she just wants to escape. Why? Because…