I recently sat with a couple who was struggling to find anything in common. They have been married for a number of years, have a couple of children, but see each other as complete strangers. When I inquired as to what they had in common when they were dating, the responded with, “Our dating was…
That may seem like a strange question, as you are probably thinking things like – “To get away from it all,” “To take a break,” “To see new things,” or any number of reasons. But I ask that question today because someone ask me that last week. My wife and I were at a beach…
Most of us, at one time or another, have been in situations when we were angry, frustrated, or perhaps disappointed in our mate. This is normal. But the question then is, what do you do with those emotions? Some might answer, “Well, I go somewhere quiet and decompress.” “I reflect on what happened to see…
Most of us, at one time or another, have been in situations when we were angry, frustrated, or perhaps disappointed in our mate. This is normal. But the question then is, what do you do with those emotions? Some might answer, “Well, I go somewhere quiet and decompress.” “I reflect on what happened to see…
I recently read an article regarding Victoria Evans, a female rower who set a new world record for the fastest solo crossing of the Atlantic by a woman. Victoria made the trip in 40 days and 19 hors. She talked about various challenges that she had along the way. For example, she managed to lock…
“Connecting practices? You mean like playing with the toys?” No, that would be K’nex (Don’t worry – I didn’t know it was spelled that way either). I am talking about normal practices that you have with your spouse, your kids, or even your grandkids. For example – do you and your spouse kiss each other…
You may be wondering what I mean by “Where you’re planted.” So, allow me to elaborate. I have encountered many people who are always “going to grow – someday.” They may be thinking – “I can’t reach my potential in this company.” Or, “This city will never be home. I am pining for my roots…
Remember when you were dating your future spouse and you seemed to agree on everything? You wanted two children and so did he. You both liked Italian food, wanted to travel, enjoyed hiking, and had the same spiritual goals. Nothing could be better. However, once you got married, you discovered that you weren’t quite as…
Last time, we began to look at how we can become more effective at setting our future selves up for greater success – and that principle is true whether we are talking about careers, finances, relationships, retirement, and so on. I have counseled so many clients who live with regrets: “I regret not finishing college…
In a quote from a Fortune Magazine article, William H. Whyte said, “The great enemy of communication is the illusion of it.” That is an excellent picture of what so many individuals fall prey to. Your spouse wants you to communicate, so you make every effort to talk more with them. However, even though you…