My thoughts today are going to be geared for the most part to those of you who are single? While you may be dating or even in a relationship, you have not yet decided to “settle down,” “tie the knot,” or “allow yourself to be caught.” Many in this situation figure that they should use…
DetailsWhat do you enjoy doing? It might be hiking, watching football, sipping tea, or flower gardening. We all have interests of some kind, with some being quite unique. One of my sons is a veterinary technician. When he first began school to pursue that career field, I think that he figured he would enjoy working…
DetailsOk – now that I have your attention, let me acknowledge that when many of you see or hear the topic of sex broached in a discussion, a plethora of feelings may wash over you. For some it may involve thoughts of connection and intimacy – for others, an ongoing battleground. While I doubt that…
DetailsIn this final installment of discussing sex, I want to encourage you with a brief look at how to better crawl into connection with your spouse. While that may seem strangely phrased to you, I am wanting you to picture getting into a place of safety. Perhaps as a child you had a favorite tree…
DetailsLast week we looked at the Gottman Institute study that demonstrated a connection between day to day partnering and increased levels of sexual intimacy. Over time, the study determined, that the sexual connection was sustained when the wife felt respected and understood. And these two components are communicated by accepting influence from one another and…
DetailsIt has been a long and somewhat frustrating day at work. You arrive home planning to have a little solace in the front of the TV. However, as you walk in the door, your spouse, who is bubbling with excitement wants to talk. Talk – ugh – this requires thinking and brain cells that are…
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I continue to marvel on a daily basis that humans are even able to communicate. To take a thought in my head, that is wrapped in my context and experiences – put those thoughts into words – send them out into the air – you hear the words and funnel them through the filter of…
DetailsA recent Associated Press article reported on the need to change the “smartphone habit.” It appears that smartphone addiction is by design. The constant stream of notifications, color scheme in apps, and all of the “likes” followers and in-game trophies are intentionally designed to distract you from the “real” world to focus on your “virtual”…
Details“Safety” is a word that we feel more than we speak, when it comes to our significant relationships. We also frequently feel unsafe, not necessarily physically but perhaps emotionally. We all want to feel safe. However, we may go about achieving that safety in some very creative ways. Like Earl, in the cartoon above, I…
DetailsWhile we have talked about “Love” in previous posts, it has been awhile and the discussion is always ongoing. I appreciate the words of one author, in her discussion of the powerful influence of media. She writes that it took her 30 years to discover important aspects of ethical relationships that she had never seen…
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