First, if you are not familiar with oxytocin, in short, it is a chemical in the brain “believed to be involved in controlling fear, stress, social interactions, love, empathy, and the bonding with and acceptance of others.” It is a chemical that can strengthen good and positive feelings. Who wouldn’t want that? Last time I…
DetailsI came across an article a few months ago in which the author was complaining about the continual need for new passwords. I could relate as every 90 days my university wants me to change my computer password. In the case of the author of the article, his company made him change his every 30…
DetailsThe functions of kissing were the subject of a recent study. Researchers wondered what is it about exchanging saliva that couples find desirable. As a part of nearly every culture in the world, kissing has been found to be a great source of information gathering. Now while that may sound strange, think about it. You…
DetailsLosing our mom is tough – especially when they have been as giving and sacrificial as my mom. There was nobody who didn’t like Mom. I don’t think it was possible. Following my Dad’s passing 12 years ago, Mom moved from Houston to Colorado Springs so that she would be near us. How very fortunate…
DetailsMitigation is probably not a word that we here or use a great deal. But in Colorado, particularly the past year or so, it is a word that has been used quite a bit. Two weeks ago began the Black Forest Fire, the worst wildfire in Colorado history, resulting in the loss of over 500…
DetailsHave you ever found yourself sitting with someone who “has it all together?” They seem to have the perfect tan, the ideal job, the flawless children, unmatchable vacations, teeth that can’t get any whiter, and not a hair out of place. How relaxed did you feel in their presence? My guess is, not very. Instead…
DetailsLast Tuesday I shared with you the story of David and Kelly and the manner in which their marriage began. We looked at some pettiness and disillusionment on their part, but then began to examine some truths that they have since learned. There are two additional tips that I want to propose today that can…
DetailsEven after all my years of counseling couples and hearing just about everything imaginable uttered in my office, I am still often taken aback by issues that present themselves for disagreement. David and Kelly had only been married a few weeks when they were shopping in the quaint stores in Carmel, along the California coast. …
DetailsDuring this past week, I sat in my office with a couple that was definitely experiencing some disconnection issues. As the husband expressed his frustration regarding how his wife was treating him, he said, “I just wish you would treat me as good as you do the dog. I would be happy if you would…
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