In 2016 Psychology Today called attention to the fact that smartphones fragment human consciousness. They contend that the habitual use of smartphones lowers our ability to be empathetic as well as diminishes the “quality of conversation.” This is our third in a series addressing technology and our relationships. In the first post we looked at…
DetailsChicago psychologist, Nicole Martinez reported that in a study of young married women, “70 percent reported that face-to-face conversations were stopped in their tracks by a partner’s phone use or even active texting.” These intrusions have been referred to by some as “technoference.” We began last week to take a look at some of the…
Details“You’re with your other husband again,’ Marilyn’s only husband would say every time she turned to her cellphone while the two were driving to dinner. She thought he was just being his witty-self.” But then his words began to get to her. In the last couple of years, I have written increasingly about our preoccupation…
DetailsDo you ever wonder, if you could be a fly on the wall at your office, your home, your friend’s house, or even your church – what would you hear people saying about you? Would they speak of your kindness and generosity or are they more likely to be discussing your self-centered arrogance? Do people…
DetailsOh the things that we stumble onto when we are cleaning out. A couple of weeks ago I was going through some old books when I came across a grocery store coupon that was inside one of them. All I can figure is that at some point in time, when I was reading it, I…
DetailsWhile people’s inclinations seem to be the same from generation to generation, the nuances of the differences in issues can vary. One of those issues that has changed faster than our relational insights, has been around technology – particularly cell phones. I can assure you that 20 years ago I was not dealing with this…
DetailsWhat is the most prominent problem in marriage? You might be thinking – your wife or husband. But I would argue they are a person not a problem. Many marriage experts have suggested that the biggest factors leading to troubled marriages are items such as: technology, children, pornography, stress, or finances. But blogger Malinda Fuller…
DetailsAs you read the title of today’s thoughts, and you begin to consider “who is in charge,” you may find your mind jumping to one of two places – either “he or she is,” or “I am.” But therein may be the problem. In his book Kingdom Man, Dr. Tony Evans tells of the impact…
Details“That is your dumbest question yet,” you may be thinking. Maybe – but read further before you decide. In a 2013 study, subjects were taken to the tallest hardwood grove in North America. One group was instructed to look up at 200 foot tall eucalyptus trees while the other group was told to fix their…
Details“Sure,” you may think. “A party sounds like fun.” Good. Oh, “What kind of party?” You would have to ask that. Well, now I’m not so certain you will want to come. You see, the party to which I am inviting you is one at which there will be guilt, nastiness, and unfair fighting. Oh…
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