We look at indicators all the time – the gas gage tells us the car is empty or full (or somewhere in between); the thermostat can tell us how hot or cold our house is; or the altimeter in a plane can keep us informed regarding the elevation at which we are flying. But is…
DetailsWhen life gets challenging, we all need understanding and support – especially from our spouse. While we all agree with that, or at least we think we do, I would ask, “What are we talking about?” You see when someone says “support” it is easy to think we all mean the same thing but oftentimes…
DetailsRemember as a kid when your mom told you, “No dessert before dinner,” but then she caught you eating half a dozen cookies? Most likely your response was, “Sorry.” Was it sincere? In January 2013, Lance Armstrong, the seven-time Tour de France winner, sat down for an interview with Oprah Winfrey. She asked him, “Did…
DetailsAlright – I admit – it is a sneaky title. At first glance, one would say, “Of course it’s not Ok to date if you are married!” “I mean, we would call that wrong, deceitful, cheating, unfaithful, adultery” . . . and the list goes on. And you would be absolutely correct! But that’s not…
DetailsWhen is the last time you told your spouse that you love him or her? That you appreciate them? That you are grateful for the ways they tolerate your crazy antics? Maybe it has been too long. While we know those are good things to communicate, right now doesn’t seem like a good time. I’m…
DetailsI had a client a couple of years ago who had Attention Deficit Disorder and worked remotely in his job– in other words, he worked for a company, but worked from home. Now he liked working from home because he could work whatever hours and in whatever attire he desired . . . . as…
DetailsI noted some interesting trends as I was reading a recent worldwide study of thousands of couples. One of the findings indicated that among the happiest couples, 85% of both men and women said those three magical words at least once a week – “I love you.” Now, you may read that and think, “well…
DetailsI remember when my boys were young, every day that watched the cartoon show, “He Man.” At some point in the show, He Man would need to defeat some evil force or correct some injustice, and he would stand boldly, holding his sword to the sky proclaiming, “I have the power.” And with that pronouncement,…
DetailsIt has been a long week, working long hours with unexpected emergencies at the office, and frankly, you’re exhausted. You are so very much looking forward to Saturday on the couch with an afternoon of college football. As you gather your favorite snacks and beverages, you flip on the TV. You are just about to…
DetailsNow I can imagine this morning that you are wondering what in the world thermostats have to do with your marriage or relationship. You may be thinking that perhaps I am going to talk about the temperature gauge of your relationships or something like that. But actually, it is going to be different than you…
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