A candle-lit dinner is arranged at the dimly lit restaurant, you have the ring in your pocket, and now . . . . you pop the question. It all went perfectly and now you can get married. Wait just a minute though. It is not quite that simple. Getting an affirmative answer to your well-worded…
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You may think this a strange question. But I would really be curious to know. You see laughter is so easily lost. I mean, life is serious stuff – there are wars and rumors of wars (hmm), hurricanes, wildfires, political divide, and the list goes on and on. You might think, “What is there to…
DetailsLast week we began a look at some thoughts in light of the new movie, Fifty Shades of Grey, and writings on the subject by Hailey Smith. (If you missed it, you might want to go to the website and read it – http://www.ifitherapy.com/blog/). We left off with, “We as ladies are living a double…
DetailsIt has been interesting to read all of the hype, hear about various interviews, and overhear conversations between people about the movie (based upon the book), Fifty Shades of Grey. While I am not in the habit of giving this space over to others, for this week and next week I want to condense and…
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So, you had a fight with your spouse yesterday. It was a silly fight, in many respects. You found yourself actually arguing over how to load the dishwasher. While not uncommon, you somehow managed to use words that, not only made their way seem inferior, you attacked their character and implied that, as a person,…
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As you think about this, you may wonder, “Which relationships are you talking about?” To which I would say, “Any and all,” especially those that are most significant. A friend of mine recently helped his brother move to the middle of nowhere. His brother doesn’t want to engage with people and just wants to be…
DetailsA recent article asked this question in a number of ways. It examined attempts that individuals have made to push their bodies to extremes. For example: the longest someone has been able to last without solid food was 382 days; or the most friends (not Facebook friends) a person can have is 150; or the…
DetailsIf everyone reading this were to answer that question, I would probably get hundreds of different responses. For example, some might say, “Well, we sit down and calmly talk about where we disagree and try to come to a compromise,” (this couple we get an “A”). Others might say, “We just yell until our voices…
DetailsThis is a question that many of us ponder, particularly as we get older. Sometimes the answer I hear from an employee might be, “I want to be remembered as a hard and productive worker;” from a neighbor, “as a loyal and trusted friend;” or from a parent, “that I was always there for my…
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Now that may seem like a strange question. You may be thinking, “I don’t want to ‘use’ my friends. That wouldn’t be good.” And I agree. I am asking more about the role that your couples friends play in your own marriage. For example, I know of couples who feel as though their mate never…
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