While that would certainly be my desire for you, far too many parents would have to answer a resounding “No” to that question. It may have been far easier to feel connected and functioning as a unified team before you had children than it did after. Some have referred to “losing that feeling of priority”…
Details“And they lived happily ever after.” Whether we have read that line in storybooks or heard it in movies, if you have been married for any length of time, your “happy ever after bubble” probably burst a long time ago. But Why? What happened? You may have felt that you were the luckiest person on…
DetailsI can still recall the stories I read as a child or saw in the fairy tale movies. They all seemed to end with, “And they lived happily ever after. – The End.” However, you have probably noticed that real life rarely follows that simple script. It would be wonderful if we met our mate…
Details“I just say, ‘Yes Dear,” was his response. Of course, you are wondering what the question was. We were recently privileged to attend the anniversary party for a couple who have been married 65 years. Wow – that is longer than I have been alive (though not by much). At 88 and 85, Elinor and…
Details“The reason we got along was that Bill was deaf, and I can’t see – so I couldn’t see what he was doing all those years, and he couldn’t hear what I was saying.” These words came from Betty as she and her husband Bill celebrated 70 years of marriage earlier this year in Colorado…
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Author Willard Harley wrote a book years ago titled, “Love Busters.” In it he compared the love that we give and receive to our mate with managing our checking accounts. For example, with our bank accounts, we make deposits and withdrawals. Similarly, in our significant relationships, we make love deposits and love withdrawals. As long…
DetailsI was recently watching a sitcom rerun in which the husband and wife were talking about something they wanted to do to get back at some friends of theirs. The wife tested the waters by saying something like, “We should not show up for their party – that would show them.” Not being sure how…
DetailsWho does the dishes in your house? It may be you, your spouse, the kids, or even the dog I suppose if you leave the dishes on floor. For lots of families this can be a point of contention. As kids I remember we would do anything we could to get out of doing the…
DetailsThere is hardly any subject that is potentially more contentious for couples than the topic of money. Often this is related to a difference in financial management styles. For example, it may be that you are a “saver” who plans ahead for purchases, while your spouse is more likely to be motivated by a “sale”…
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