Who are You Trying to Fool?
In 1774, future President John Adams penned the following: We see every day that our imaginations are so strong and our reason so weak, the charms of wealth and power are so enchanting, and the belief of future punishments so faint that men find ways to persuade themselves to believe any absurdity, to submit to…
DetailsDon’t Deny That You DId That – Walls – Part 4
Have you ever caught your child red-handed, getting into the cookies when they were told not to because dinner would be ready in 20 minutes? As you stand there in anger and disbelief, you are befuddled by what you are seeing. But even as you see it happening, your kid tries to deny the crime.…
DetailsCan You Wait?
Author and therapist Eric Scalise writes, “We now live in the most technologically connected, but relationally disconnected, culture this country has ever experienced.” “Goodness, what did people do when they had an hour commute home from work and were unable to connect with a family member . . . unless, of course, they wanted to…
DetailsDo You Validate? – Walls – Part 3
Have you ever gone into a downtown to go shopping at perhaps a high-rise of stores and had to pay for parking? But if you actually go into one of those stores and purchase something, you can ask them if they validate, and they will, so that you don’t have to pay for parking. Today…
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If Your Mind Were Sharp, You Would . . .
Poet William Yeats wrote, “The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.” How sharp do you think your senses are? If you are like most of us, especially if you live in a big city, they may have grown dull over time. I remember when I moved from…
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What is it You’re Avoiding? – Walls – Part 2
In my last “Relationships Tip Tuesdays” I began discussing the ways in which we often unwittingly build up walls (sometimes massive) between us and our mate. Typically we find ourselves feeling hurt or discounted by the other person and the trust and safety that we once felt begins to slowly erode. We may find ourselves…
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