Conflict, fights, arguments, disagreements – these are all words that make us want to go hide. As I sit with couples on a daily basis, I listen to the creative ways that each party escapes in order to avoid all of those above words. While there may be something that is bothering them, they will…
DetailsIt has been a long week and you are looking forward to Friday night. Between work, the kids, and your parents – you are exhausted. You are in dire need of rejuvenation; of an energy boost. So, you approach your spouse to discuss what the two of you might want to do with, what has…
DetailsI know couples who seem to fight all the time. Some are always on the verge of walking out, while others would label their marriage as very happy. What is the difference? It may be in how we approach conflict. Unless we are exactly like the person we are in a relationship with (in which…
DetailsA story is told of a discussion at a linguistic conference in London, England. This was supposedly attended by some of the best linguists in the world. They were competing to find the best definitions and explain the differences between the words “complete” and “finished.” Samsundar Balgobin was named the winner when he was posed…
DetailsAs I mentioned recently, the Colorado Springs Community has come through a horrific experience with the Black Forest Fire, in which over 500 homes were lost. One family and their extended family lost five homes amongst them. Another couple who had lost their home last June in the Waldo Canyon Fire, moved to Black Forest,…
DetailsI know that this isn’t an actual word, but it is a term I came across recently that I thought was very fitting. Elevating our children to a level of priority that was never intended and is actually unhealthy for all involved is to what “childolatry” refers. Studies consistently report that couples who do more…
DetailsYou have just returned from you annual physical somewhat stunned. Your doctor has told you that your cholesterol numbers are through the roof and you have to cut down your carb intake and get on the treadmill multiple times per week. More specifically, he said, “If you want to be around for your grandkids –…
DetailsMany of you probably know that the title comes from some of the lyrics to the song “Celebration,“ from Kool & The Gang, released in 1980. When most of us married, we assumed that we were beginning a partnership with the person who would become our biggest and loudest cheerleader. However, over the years, we…
Details“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.” – Cicero I recently read an article in which the writer discussed the benefits of keep a “Gratitude Journal.” The idea had come to him that he really had much to be grateful for and that it was something he wanted…
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