Do You Need a Demolition Crew? – Walls – Part 1
Do you remember when you first began dating your mate? I know that for some, that may have been a long time ago. But one of the things that we hopefully experience that keeps us coming back, is a sense that we can trust this person. We trust them not just to be physically safe…
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Steps to Prevent Brain Drain!
Over recent months I have occasionally written about some of the dangers of too much technology use and its impact on everything from our brain to our relationships. Today I want to borrow and adapt some insightful suggestions from brain expert Dr. Daniel Amen regarding steps we can take to increase our healthiness in these…
DetailsWhy Do We Keep Tripping Over Finances?
There are a handful of topics that can easily derail a couple and finances is near the top of the list. Sometimes the issue is most challenging because there is just not enough money to make ends meet. But for many, the bigger issue is disagreement with how best for a couple to manage their…
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Why is Change so Difficult?
Sitting with a couple this afternoon, I listened as the wife, in tears, talked about the repeated negative cycles she and her husband experience – and re-experience. It seems that her husband works to make changes, but after a couple of weeks, defaults to old patterns. Why? Many times it has to do with a…
DetailsDo You Want Attention?
Now my wife would say “No.” She does not like to be the center of attention. However, she likes to have my attention just as I like to have hers. A 2017 study on relationship experiences was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. The research found that on days that a person’s…
DetailsDo You Want to Enjoy Pleasure?
Now you are probably thinking, “Well, that’s a silly question. Of course I want to enjoy pleasure. Who doesn’t?” And I would certainly agree with you. But what if I told you that many of us are doing the very things that could make experiencing pleasure more difficult? Whenever we do something that brings us…
DetailsIs Kindness Headed Toward Extinctiion?
While I certainly pray that is not the case, Jamil Zaki, a Stanford psychologist and director of its Social Neuroscience Laboratory, states, “If you wanted to design a system to break empathy, you could scarcely do better than the society we’ve created.” He believes that we are becoming more and more disengaged, citing the amount…
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