I recently sat with a couple who were in the heat of a disagreement. They had an argument that morning that had begun small – over a misunderstood comment but was then followed with the phrase “you don’t support me.” From there things went down hill at full throttle. But why? He was completely offended…
DetailsIt is the middle of the night. You wake up because you are cold and it quickly becomes evident as to why. Your partner, once again, has taken most of the covers. How do you address it? Yank all of the covers in retaliation, wake him or her up and voice your complaint, or let…
DetailsCan a kiss a day keep the doctor away? Wow – wouldn’t that be great! If that were the case, if kissing could be both fun and healthy, how cool would that be? In a recent interview, Andrea Demirjian, author of “Kissing: Everything You Ever Wanted to Know about One of Life’s Sweetest Pleasures,” offered…
DetailsDo you like hugs? Now that may seem like a silly question. I mean, come on – remember when you first went out with that special someone. You were intrigued by their wit. You were dazzled by the sparkle in their eyes. And when the moment came that he or she hugged you, you felt…
DetailsThis coming Friday is that day when you have the opportunity to express special appreciation and love for your wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend – that important person in your life. How will you do that? I heard a commercial for a jewelry store the other day, telling listeners to not go with the appliance but…
DetailsI have a question for you today. What kind of comments do you make to your spouse? Are they positive, encouraging, supportive, and uplifting or do they tend to lean more towards the negative, critical, and belittling side? Marriage researcher John Gottman, Ph.D., reveals that couples who are most happy and stable offer five positive…
DetailsWhen my boys were young, they used to watch the cartoon series “He Man.” From those decades ago, the theme song still echoes in my head along with the picture of “He Man” standing with his sword stretched out above his head, proclaiming those words, “I have the power.” While I may not have the…
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Lisa walked into the room, took one look at Sammy and, without saying a word, turned and walked out. Perplexed, Sammy silently wondered, “What was that all about?” Thinking that perhaps Lisa had come into the room and then remembered something else that she needed to do, he went on about with what he was…
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Have you ever made that statement or felt that way? If you are human, then you probably have. As I sat with a client yesterday, I was reminded of this very tendency. You see, we don’t like being in the hot-seat, feeling attacked or unfairly accused. Therefore, when we do, our first reaction is usually…
DetailsIf you have ever seen the Star Wars movies, you no doubt remember the wise character of Yoda. While not an imposing figure to look at, his Jedi Knight abilities were a force to be reckoned with. He also had a unique way of phrasing his sentences. One famous quote from the movies was the…
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