It’s been a long week and you are looking forward to going out to dinner with your spouse. For some reason you have been thinking all day about Mexican food. Your mouth is watering for some chips and salsa. Your mate comes through the door and says, “I’m hungry. I thought maybe we could try…
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From time to time I will see ads on TV that proclaim that the decision to buy their particular product is not a complicated one. And sometimes, that may be true. But I want to tell you a simple story today that exemplifies this idea of a decision not being complicated. In August of this…
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We all have times when conversation flows pretty easily, as well as other occasions when communication can be strained. Then there are those times when it is downright difficult. So, what can you do to jump start your conversations with your mate? I want to suggest 4 strategies today to help reinvigorate your communication. 1)…
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Another way of asking this question might be – what do you think about? Or what do you focus on? Psychologists have documented some of the benefits of regular meditation, such as clearing the mind, reducing anxiety, increasing calmness, and so on. Some individuals will focus on a word or a phrase and perhaps repeat…
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So, how does your marriage stack up with everyone else’s? Are you doing better than most or are you fearful that you are falling behind where you should be (whatever that means)? Or maybe a better question to ask is, “What does it matter?” Social media was originally created with probably good intent. However, it…
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Last time we looked at the benefits of embracing anticipation. It impacts our mood and overall well-being when we learn to appreciate the art of looking forward to something. So many times, people, kids especially, view delayed gratification as a negative or even as a punishment. I remember as an elementary kid, my grandmother promising…
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That’s not a difficult question to answer. Of course they do – many times the same way that we disappoint them. So, maybe a better question to ask would be – what are some good ways to handle disappointment, because it will happen? I want to share a few productive steps that we can take…
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Do you recall a time when you looked forward to something – whether it was a birthday party, an upcoming trip, an expected guest, or even planning and saving to make a large purchase? Those were likely meaningful times. We are caught up in a world of instant gratification. We see it – we want…
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I recently sat with a couple who was struggling to find anything in common. They have been married for a number of years, have a couple of children, but see each other as complete strangers. When I inquired as to what they had in common when they were dating, the responded with, “Our dating was…
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That may seem like a strange question, as you are probably thinking things like – “To get away from it all,” “To take a break,” “To see new things,” or any number of reasons. But I ask that question today because someone ask me that last week. My wife and I were at a beach…
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