When Your Spouse Seems Angry

We have all experienced those times when we have walked into the room and our spouse has “that look.”  I have heard it called the “evil eye,” or the “stink eye”, but regardless of what you call it – we all know the look.  We used to get it from our parents.  We didn’t like…

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When it is Hard to Talk

We all have times when conversation flows pretty easily, as well as other occasions when communication can be strained. Then there are those times when it is downright difficult. So, what can you do to jump start your conversations with your mate? I want to suggest 4 strategies today to help reinvigorate your communication. 1)…

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When Disagreements are Hard

Remember when you were dating your future spouse and you seemed to agree on everything? You wanted two children and so did he. You both liked Italian food, wanted to travel, enjoyed hiking, and had the same spiritual goals. Nothing could be better. However, once you got married, you discovered that you weren’t quite as…

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What’s Your Story?

“That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.” That is a phrase that many of us have used tongue in cheek. But I wonder what really is your story? We all have a narrative that we tell ourselves. Your story reflects your personal sense of self. Some of your story is rooted in a solid…

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What’s Your Story?

“The stories we love are filled with struggle, conflict, and failure, yet so often the stories we present to others are a highlight reel of accomplishments, perfect meals, and sunny days.” – Brian Bailey. As I reflect upon this quote, I realize the many ways that we see the truth of his statement.  Think about…

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What’s Your Hurry?

People seem to be in a perpetual hurry – sometimes dangerously so. I think about this when I’m driving, especially on the freeway. the interstate between Colorado Springs and Denver is a prime example, though I am sure you could cite similar instances on roads where you live. Normally the speed limit on much of…

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What’s the Value?

I learned an important lesson last week. We were cleaning out some things from our downstairs and had put in a pick-up call to Goodwill. As my wife was giving them a list regarding any larger items, which included two TVs, she discovered that they don’t accept TVs anymore. She assured them that they are…

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What’s on Your Bucket List?

Lots of people have bucket lists. Some hope to accomplish some harrowing experience like skydiving or bungee jumping. Others hope to summit all of the fourteeners (the peaks that are 14,000 feet or higher) in Colorado. Still others want to travel to some exotic place. As I am writing this in April, yesterday saw thousands…

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What’s Better Than Sex?

Now that I have your attention, you may be thinking a variety of things. Some may say, “Nothing is better,” while others may think, “Lots of things are.” Regardless of which camp you may fall into, sexual intimacy, when approached with love in a lifelong relationship, is potentially one of the most bonding activities a…

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What?

As a child, I used to hear my parents speak a language that kept us kids from understanding them.  It worked pretty well until we got a little older and could figure it out.  You see, it wasn’t a real language but a made up one called “Double Talk.”  As an adult, I can’t begin…

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