Now while your first thought might be, “I don’t have any expectations in my relationships,” as you give it a little thought, I believe that you probably do. For example, if you are married, you most likely began the marriage assuming some things with regard to: how money would be managed; how much time you…
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Whether we are talking about a marriage, a work place relationship, or a friendship – most of us would, at least initially, think of disagreements as a negative experience. While I know that it often feels that way, is it really? Disagreements come in all shapes and sizes. Sometime we have minor arguments – such…
DetailsPeople respond in a variety of ways to a question like this. Some might say (because we all want to appear to be reasonable) that they always calmly and rationally discuss disagreements. Others would answer with an honest expression of “We yell at each other, get it all out in the open and then we…
DetailsIf you are a guy reading this title, it may have struck instant fear in your heart as you think, “I don’t dance with my mate. I am not good at dancing and I don’t want to do it.” While most females read this and only wish they could get their husbands to dance. But…
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So, how does your marriage stack up with everyone else’s? Are you doing better than most or are you fearful that you are falling behind where you should be (whatever that means)? Or maybe a better question to ask is, “What does it matter?” Social media was originally created with probably good intent. However, it…
Details“Well, I may not be the best parent in the world, but at least I make sure that my kids have something to eat, unlike John and Susan next door.” “I know I could treat my spouse better, but have you noticed how Sandy talks down to her husband. I mean, I would never do…
DetailsYour first thought may be “He has done amazing work,” or “He has done a lousy job.” But first you might want to find out what I am referring to – the economy? The Virus? Foreign affairs? Or, even still, you might need to see if we are talking about the same President. Over the…
DetailsHave you ever felt that way? You fell in love with this wonderful person. You liked their personality, their characteristics, their habits (well, most of them), and their interests. This was perfect. But then after a few years, something happened. You woke up one day and it dawned on you – there was a stranger…
DetailsWe have all heard so much in the news and on social media about how great it is to be done with all of the calamities of 2020 and how much better 2021 will be. While 2020 was without a doubt a difficult year, here we are in February of 2021 and not a lot…
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As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I strongly believe that marriages can be saved much more frequently than they are – if the two people involved will honestly do the work that is needed. However, I recognize that in a society that is all too toxic and does little to encourage marital longevity, divorce is…
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