What’s Better Than Sex?

Now that I have your attention, you may be thinking a variety of things. Some may say, “Nothing is better,” while others may think, “Lots of things are.” Regardless of which camp you may fall into, sexual intimacy, when approached with love in a lifelong relationship, is potentially one of the most bonding activities a…

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What?

As a child, I used to hear my parents speak a language that kept us kids from understanding them.  It worked pretty well until we got a little older and could figure it out.  You see, it wasn’t a real language but a made up one called “Double Talk.”  As an adult, I can’t begin…

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What, Where, Why?

What?  Where?  When? Why? What is the meaning of life?  Where am I going?  When will it all make sense?  Why am I here?  These are the questions that have preoccupied the great thinkers and philosophers of the ages as well as millions of other people. I had a professor in graduate school who would…

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What Would You Do With More Energy?

You may be thinking – “Energy – what’s that?” I watch my grandkids, who have seemingly endless reservoirs of energy and wonder how can I get some of that? Well, being 4 years old would help. But the truth is, we don’t have to settle for no or low energy all of the time. Now…

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What Would Phil Do?

I know, you are probably thinking, “Who in the world is Phil and why would I care what he does?” Great question. Phil Allman Jr. is a tennis player in Colorado Springs. But he is not just any tennis player – he is a 99 year old tennis player, who plays at least twice a…

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What Will They Say?

Do you ever wonder, if you could be a fly on the wall at your office, your home, your friend’s house, or even your church – what would you hear people saying about you?  Would they speak of your kindness and generosity or are they more likely to be discussing your self-centered arrogance?  Do people…

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What to Watch?

Recently, an article in the Chicago Tribune addressed problems that can occur when couples don’t like to watch the same TV shows.  One person lounges in the living room watching crime shows such as Law and Order and NCIS, while the other holes up downstairs binging on the sports channel.  While an occasional watching of…

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What to Do?

It’s been a long and stressful day at work. You come home, looking for a little relief, support, perhaps even some affirmation.  But what you get is . . .  more stress, unmet expectations, invalidation, and down right meanness.  Today it crosses the line of your ability to tolerate and you say – “that’s it. …

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What Lessons Have You Learned?

I recently came across a thoughtful article written by psychotherapist Winifred M. Reilly.  While she discussed the naïve optimism that most of us enter marriage with, she went on to list 35 lessons that she had learned in her 35 years of marriage.  I have selected my top ten favorites to share with you here. …

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