In my last Relationship post we began to look at ways that we as parents have been known to enable our child’s entitled expectations. While we may have done so inadvertently, the consequences are the same. And the only thing more aggravating than an entitled child is an entitled adult – which is what entitled…
DetailsI frequently hear frustration from parents regarding how entitled their children are. They expect all of the privileges that their family and life have to offer without having to exert any effort of their own in the process. They just can’t seem to understand why this happens. As I dig a little deeper, I learn…
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We all know what habits are, patterns that we get into as to how we do things. They become routine, second nature, things that we can just “do” without giving them much thought. Some habits are beneficial while others can be annoying, sometimes even destructive. For example, if you are in the habit of leaving…
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Now you may be thinking, “Well, I try to be but I’m not always successful.” I would then follow up that thought with, “What gets in the way of being your best self?” The well-known Renaissance artist Michelangelo was once asked how he managed to create amazing sculptures – such as “David?” His response was…
DetailsAuthor Steve Goodier shared the following story. One night, a Dodgers farm club coached by Tommy Lasorda was leading Tucson by one run in the eighth inning, but Tucson had the bases loaded with two outs. According to Don Martin in TeamThink, Lasorda decided to pep up his pitcher, a left-hander named Bobby O’Brien. Lasorda…
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I just finished a session with a client who is very much walking on eggshells. He is anxious, his stomach is in knots, his blood pressure is up, and he has been on the verge of a panic attack. Why? Because there are some issues he knows that he needs to discuss with his mate,…
DetailsFollowing the death of his mother, a rabbi once wrote: Some people say the secret to happiness can be broken down into three elements: something to do, someone to love, and something to look forward to. I had something to do – I was a rabbi, and my congregants were counting on me to function…
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The well-known musician, Yo Yo Ma, in a recent quote, said, “The pandemic accentuated that part of me that says why I am useful.” Am I useful for anything? I’m only useful if I feel I can respond to need.” There are those who quickly respond to needs, almost as soon as they are expressed,…
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“Too old for what,” you may ask. Certainly the answer can vary. Am I too old to go for a walk? I hope not. How about too old to be a gymnast in the Olympics? For me – definitely. Let’s say you are 40 years old – are you too old to play in the…
DetailsChicago psychologist, Nicole Martinez reported that in a study of young married women, “70 percent reported that face-to-face conversations were stopped in their tracks by a partner’s phone use or even active texting.” These intrusions have been referred to by some as “technoference.” We began last week to take a look at some of the…
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