As I sat in my office yesterday, a couple recounted an argument that they had on Valentine’s Day (Not the best day to argue). In actuality, they were both attempting to make the day romantic and special, but somehow managed to miscommunicate something that should have been minor and easily cleared up. But it wasn’t.…
DetailsYou get home from work and once again your spouse has . . . . (fill in the blank). It could be – left the dirty dishes in the sink, didn’t feed the dog, left the dirty laundry on the floor, or numerous other possibilities. And with this repeated annoyance – the conflict begins. What…
DetailsWhen you read that question, what comes to mind? When we were in high school, many of the girls thought, “Well he must be tall and muscular, have a nice car, and make at least a little money.” The guys might have said, “She needs to be slim, cute, and have blonde (brunette, red, fill…
DetailsThis is a question that many of us ponder, particularly as we get older. Sometimes the answer I hear from an employee might be, “I want to be remembered as a hard and productive worker;” from a neighbor, “as a loyal and trusted friend;” or from a parent, “that I was always there for my…
Details“Jealousy is a form of delusion, based on the notion that someone’s gain is somehow our loss.” As I recently read that quote, I thought, “Hey that’s a great quote. I can’t believe they thought of that before I did. Boy, I’ll show them.” Ok, only kidding on that last thought. However, what I did…
DetailsI remember playing little league baseball in 5th grade. It was my first year to play organized baseball so I had a lot to learn. I wasn’t very good at catching and even worse at hitting. While I learned some valuable lessons that enabled me to play much better as an adult, at this point…
DetailsI had a client a couple of years ago who had Attention Deficit Disorder and worked remotely in his job– in other words, he worked for a company, but worked from home. Now he liked working from home because he could work whatever hours and in whatever attire he desired . . . . as…
DetailsBack during the Christmas holidays, I had the most unbelievable experience. My wife and I were out of town and had the opportunity to spend an afternoon and evening with a couple of my cousins and their spouses. We went to one of their homes, visited in the afternoon, went out to dinner, then came…
DetailsHow do you connect with touch? For too many, this question stirs up thoughts of – “Ok, here is where he is going to talk about why we need to have more sex.” “Well, we just can’t right now. I mean the kids are on the go constantly and any free time seems to be…
Details“When happiness shows up always give it a comfortable seat.” – Charles Dickens Neuroscientists have repeatedly demonstrated that the more we reinforce thinking in our brains, the stronger those connections become. For example, re-experiencing a trauma can lead to irrational but paralyzing fears. It is interesting to notice how things like insults, discouragement, or bitterness…
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