Are You Here for Self or Others?

Recently, at an event in Orlando, Denzel Washington said the following: “It [the Bible] says in the last days we’ll become lovers of ourselves. The number one photograph now is a selfie. So we all want to lead. We’re willing to do anything – ladies and young men – to be influential . . .…

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Are You Good Enough?

Your first thoughts may be, “Of course I’m not good enough. Most people are way more accomplished than I am.” And with that begins a journey of feeling inadequate, less than, and perhaps even a bit of a failure. Last time I wrote about the dangers of comparing ourselves to others on social media. This…

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Are You Going to Die?

What a depressing thought to wake up to on a Monday morning. I know – it can be but depression is not where I want to take us today. Yet, the question remains – are you going to die? Now it is easy to respond with, “Of course. We are all going to die, but…

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Are You Friends?

I recently met with a client who is experiencing some struggles in his marriage. While the struggles aren’t easy, he doesn’t see them as insurmountable because he states with confidence that he and his wife are, and always have been, best friends. Some couples started out as friends before dating, while others began dating, getting…

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Are You Focusing on What Truly Matters?

The first half of 2020 has certainly been different than anyone imagined going into the year. The world seemed pretty locked down, changing the way we do business. Weddings have been postponed, extended family gatherings delayed, and even graduation ceremonies were cancelled or, at best, given an alternative format. Our experience with the pandemic, hopefully,…

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Are You Driven by Guilt?

We all make mistakes.  Whether big or small, knowing that we made them can take us to healthy growth or unhealthy reactions.  I sometimes hear individuals make statements such as, “People shouldn’t feel guilt over things that they have done.”  However, I would tend to disagree with that thought.  As a friend of mine from…

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Are You Doing Good for Yourself? – Part 2

Last time, we began to look at how we can become more effective at setting our future selves up for greater success – and that principle is true whether we are talking about careers, finances, relationships, retirement, and so on. I have counseled so many clients who live with regrets: “I regret not finishing college…

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Are You Doing Good for Yourself? – Part 1

Now you may be thinking that I’m talking about some kind of self-care, such as getting enough sleep, eating healthy, exercising regularly, meditating, and so on. However, that is not where I’m headed today. Actually, I want to look at how we take care of and prepare for our future selves. I recently had an…

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