How Are You Doing in Life?

While that might seem like a strange question, isn’t it one that motivates, or perhaps, haunts us? If we dig a little deeper we will see our tendency to take that questions a step further. We are really often asking, “How am I doing in life in the eyes of others?” Whether we are being…

The End of Old Age!

What? Can that be real?” Well, according biologist Andrew Steel, medical science is making progress on that very subject. He has written about the field of biogerontology, examining emerging treatments that range from new drugs that can clear out old cells to gene therapies that can actually fix damaged DNA. Steel has found people’s response…

Do You Demonstrate Empathy?

I was touched a few months ago by a demonstration of empathy that was heart-warming but in an unexpected place. It was during an incredible NFL playoff game featuring the Kansas City Chiefs and the Buffalo Bills. It was a hard-fought back and forth game with two outstanding quarter backs – Josh Allen and Patrick…

Who, What, Where, Why?

The “W” questions. Three of these are typically easier to answer than the fourth one. For example – “Who did you meet for lunch?” has a specific answer. “What did you eat at lunch? also is pretty easy to identify.” “Where did you go to lunch?” is determined by a specific location. But “Why did…

Who Makes the Decisions in Your Brain?

Now that might seem like a strange question, but we all make decisions – somewhere in our brain. Some people are very analytical, attempting to gather every data point they can in order to make the most reasoned decision possible. Others often make decisions based upon what their “gut” tells them. Some are methodical, taking…

What is Your Source of Happiness?

For most people, happiness seems to be a reaction – a reaction to an event or a set of circumstances. For example, many people have been certain that if they just won the lottery, they would have all that they need and they would be happy. Yet, many stories of lottery winners offer a very…

How Are You in the Hallway?

Last time we talked about the challenges that we face when a door, or an opportunity, closes but something else or another door doesn’t immediately open to us. We find ourselves, as it were, stuck in the “hallway.” It is not unusual to stand there tapping our foot, waiting for another door to open. But…

Are You in the Hallway?

Last time we looked at some of the challenges that we experience when we suffer losses and even the efforts we make trying to avoid them. But no matter how hard we try to dodge them – if we love (people, pets, etc.), if we embrace opportunities, if we invest in things – we are…

Can You Appreciate Loss?

There is an old Jewish saying that if you dance at a lot of weddings, you’ll cry at a lot of funerals. In essence, saying that if you experience wonderful relationships, it will be sad when they end – because they were good. I have worked with people who have lost everything from their car…