For the past year, I have been on a declutter quest. You see, I have lived in our current house for over 25 years – the longest I have lived in one place. And living in the same place for this long, I have accumulated stuff. Things I haven’t used in years but always tend to think, “You never know when I might need that.” But I have moved past that and am clearing out the stuff that no longer serves me well. Probably most reading this can identify with the accumulation of things you no longer need.
Bur I can’t help but wonder if there aren’t times when we need to declutter our marriage. This could entail eliminating routines that are no longer needed or that just don’t work anymore. It could be emotional hurts or resentments that you are hanging on to. Perhaps there are unresolved issues that continue to trip you up because you are hesitant to talk about them.
While these things don’t take up physical space like that old camping gear in the garage that you’re not going to use anymore, they do take up emotional space in your head and heart. Wouldn’t it be nice to get rid of some of that clutter?
It begins with you owning your portion of the emotional stuff and then loving your mate enough to take action towards decluttering. Those actions could begin with an honest conversation about each other’s needs and desires. This is only a starting point, but one worth considering, given the potential benefits.