“We used to hide and sneak up on each other and say ‘Boo.” “I’ll never forget the time she accidently got me wet with the hose out in the backyard. I went and grabbed the super-soaker – and the battle was on.” “I loved it when he would call me each day at lunchtime and read me the “joke of the day” that he would find. Those calls always gave me a lift.”
“Fun!” That is what describes those situations listed above. When you dated your spouse, my guess is that laughter and fun were a part of your relationship. Unfortunately, for far too many couples, “fun” has left the building. Life got serious; kids came along; finances became tight; any number of things seemed to yank all of the fun right out of your relationship. Yet, marital studies consistently report that fun and laughter contribute a significant bonding effect in relationships.
Certainly as responsibilities increase, life does become a little more intense. But this is no reason to quit having fun. It is far too important to allow it to slip away. Yes, we may have to be a little more intentional in our planning, but it is worth it. We need to continue to romance each other in fun ways. We need to strive to hang on to some level of spontaneity. Very simply put – this week . . . beginning with today – look for fun and laughter in your relationship.