If you are single and are dating, the answer to the above question is a resounding “Yes!” However, others may be inclined to say, “Nope. I quit dating 25 years ago when I got married.” While I understand the thinking, I would contend that rather than marriage be the end of dating it should instead be that which solidifies dating.
Unfortunately, dating often gets pushed to the side. I think about my oldest son and his wife. He works full-time, she part-time, as they endeavor to have one of them at home with their nearly 2year old daughter and their 4 month old son. With young children come a host of new expenses. Life is full and some days feel like a struggle just to keep their heads above water with regard to energy level, finances, and getting diapers changed and people fed. The idea of a date night is probably the last thing on their mind. They are probably happy to just collapse on the couch for five minutes.
But the principle of continuing to date my spouse, especially after we are married, is an important one. It doesn’t have to be expensive or elaborate but it does have to be intentional. This is not a time to talk about the kids, finances, school supplies, etc., but is a time to focus on and enjoy each other. Studies have reported that those couples who spend time alone each week experience three time higher levels of happiness, positive communication, and sexual satisfaction than those who don’t make this time a priority.
So, regardless of what has been the norm up to now, I want to encourage you to sit down this week and talk with your partner about how to make date night a meaningful reality in your relationship.