Do you want to improve your memory? I see this question posed more and more today through unsolicited mail, newspaper ads, and television commercials (at least that is what I recall). As we find ourselves living longer, this becomes an issue of ever increasing concern. So how do I improve my memory? And as you read that you are probably wondering if I forgot that this is a column about relationships.
A recent article examined research concerning memory. It found that our recollections tend to be less detailed and less reliable than we would like. One of the memory saving features that we often use, and they may work against us, is taking photos. The study found, however, that when we use the zoom function on our cameras, we remember more specific details about what we see.
But here is the part that I really found relevant. When we are experiencing the scene or event with someone, we are much more likely to remember. (Interestingly, those using their cell phones were less observant and recalled less of the experience). Data from the study suggested that our awareness is enhanced when we experience life with someone. Think about that for a moment. If you are like most, whether it be a vacation, a concert, or some other event, you probably enjoyed it and found it more memorable when you were with your spouse, children, or some other loved one. Being with those we love anchors the events and scenes in our memories. They give an added layer of texture to our experiences, which enhances memory.
So, if you want to improve what you remember this week – engage with your partner in living the moments of life.