Remember those early days of dating. While I know that for some of you that may seem like a lifetime ago. But try to think back . . . recall those early connections. When I was in Jr. High School (it wasn’t called middle school back then), a guy gave a girl a St. Christopher necklace, which indicated that you were “going steady.” Which of course pretty much just meant that you were boyfriend and girlfriend. Later on it was an “ID bracelet” and by high school, you gave the girl your class ring on a chain. All of these were designed to indicate that you were somehow connected – whether you really were or not.
But, as a married couple, what are genuine signs that you are connected? There can be many, but I just want to mention a couple here today.
First, you have a unique way of communicating. This may be certain words or phrases that you use with each other that no else would understand. This could even include facial expressions and other non-verbal cues. It is almost like your own private language.
Second, you have your own unique traditions. An example of this is one couple that I know who celebrate what they call their “Month-a-versary.” From the time they were dating, and into their marriage, they have acknowledged and celebrated their anniversary every month with a card and a particular gift that has special meaning only to them.
I know that these may seem small and insignificant, and I admit, they may not seem like significant bricks in the marriage wall, but they may be what the mortar is made of the holds the brick together.