We all have times when conversation flows pretty easily, as well as other occasions when communication can be strained. Then there are those times when it is downright difficult. So, what can you do to jump start your conversations with your mate? I want to suggest 4 strategies today to help reinvigorate your communication.
1) Agree to focus on your relationship. It is far too easy to default to conversations
about the kids. There are always needs, schedules, and “taxi service” that is constantly
required. But strive to set aside other times when you are going to focus on each other.
2) Do something new – maybe something you have never done. But be adventuresome
together. Whether you are trying snowshoeing for the first time or perhaps, getting
really brave, and taking ballroom dance lessons together, this new venture will
stimulate conversation.
3) Stop scrolling. Cell phones and other devices can be mortal enemies to good
communication. Rather than focus on people who are not even in the room, give your
undivided attention to each other. Put those phones in another room where they can’t
even be seen.
4) Is there an elephant in the room? In other words, is there some tension or unresolved
issue that has not be addressed? Have you done all you can to avoid it, but you both
know it’s there? You walk around it, hoping it will go away, but it never does. If so, it’s
time to address it before it does lasting damage. In doing so, you will open the door to
more relaxed communication.
While this is certainly not an exhaustive list of conversation helpers, it is a manageable list of 4 things you can begin to try today. I hope you will.