I was recently drawn in by the words of a Pastor who wrote, “What would you do in the name of love? The best romantic comedies show us the lengths that people will go to for love. Great displays of affection, extravagant acts of passion and feeling, beautiful offerings of words and sentiment and devotion. And that’s just in the movies.” Unfortunately I would too often have to add that it seems to be ONLY in the movies.
How often have I watched Tom Hanks go to extremes to grab someone’s attention or give of himself in sacrificial ways to express affection in those comedic portrayals of love. We are captivated by these humorous relationships because, if the truth be known, this is absolutely what we desire in our own lives. Yet rather than experience our mate going out of their way to do something special for us, we more likely find that they can’t be bothered to make even the slightest efforts on our behalf . . . or us on theirs either.
Didn’t we get married because we fully intended to love their socks off and in turn hoped they would love ours off as well? How discouraged we find ourselves. But it doesn’t have to continue this way. Whether this pattern has been going on for two weeks or two decades – it can be changed. And here is the exciting part – it is fully within your control. If you want your husband to pursue you like Tom Hanks, begin to pursue him with the same determination that Meg Ryan or Julia Roberts used in going after him. It begins today. Determine today that you won’t be stopped. Change the pattern of interaction. Here is the secret – do it differently . . . and it will be different.